On communication

[danaeris]

I realized something this morning.

I have always prized myself on being a good communicator, but a lot of the recent problems I've had have stemmed from NOT communicating, which has been quite confusing to me, since it is contrary to my self-image.

But I think I get it.

Once I start communicating, I'm a good communicator.
However, I'm lousy, or at least mediocre, at getting started. I put it off. I tell myself it isn't urgent. I hold it in, I wait for a good time, never admitting that maybe there never WILL be a good time.

This comment I put in my journal sums it up, to some extent:
"I think this was building for a while. I saw it, but I thought I could handle holding it a little while longer. Instead, the dam burst. I wonder when I'll learn to stop building dams in my heart?"

The dams always break. They ALWAYS break. And it is never good.

This is a lesson I need to pound into my head. And I'm sure I'm not the only one -- this is a fairly universal difficulty, from what I've seen of my friends and lovers.

Comments

[freefloat.livejournal.com]

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think you've hit on it.

[freefloat.livejournal.com]

Of course, I don't hide my feelings very well at all..... and if I have something to say to someone, it's extremely difficult for me to keep it to myself too.

Fat lot of good it does me.

And always I'm regarded as the one with the deficiency - after all, everyone should acquire the "skill" of bottling things up and carrying-on like nothing's wrong. < /snark>

[polywolf.livejournal.com]

Maybe you and I can work on better communication together(some people say i need to communicate better, wink,wink) so that when we communicate with others we will be better at it.

hugs

[jackspryte.livejournal.com]

I think you are a most excellent communicator and I think it is essential to your self and who you are, but I think communication is something EVERYONE has short-comings in now and then.

No one is perfect.