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danaerisI don't buy seasonal gifts for people. I don't expect seasonal gifts from people. In fact, I'd rather not get gifts from people. The whole thing, in my mind, is just an irritation.
IF I were in a group of friends that decided to do the secret santa, where everyone had one person to focus on, and a budget to buy within, I might do that. That would give me the chance to think long on what would be a lovely and thoughtful gift for that person, without feeling like anyone had an undue financial burden. But otherwise, no. It is too stressful, too expensive, and too artificial. I'd rather that we look for things that make us think of each other throughout the year, or buy nice birthday presents for each other, than do this seasonal gift thing.
So yeah. That's my stance. I think the one thing that I wouldn't object to is this:
Some people during the holiday season do extra cooking or crafting because they love it. For instance, they make home made jam, a whole bunch of bottles, and give it to all their friends. That feels different to me, somehow. I guess it seems more like an act of love. Making the jam makes them happy. Seeing their friends enjoy it makes them happy. So, it makes me happy.
The flip side of this is that I won't be getting you anything. Sorry. I'm a scrooge!
IF I were in a group of friends that decided to do the secret santa, where everyone had one person to focus on, and a budget to buy within, I might do that. That would give me the chance to think long on what would be a lovely and thoughtful gift for that person, without feeling like anyone had an undue financial burden. But otherwise, no. It is too stressful, too expensive, and too artificial. I'd rather that we look for things that make us think of each other throughout the year, or buy nice birthday presents for each other, than do this seasonal gift thing.
So yeah. That's my stance. I think the one thing that I wouldn't object to is this:
Some people during the holiday season do extra cooking or crafting because they love it. For instance, they make home made jam, a whole bunch of bottles, and give it to all their friends. That feels different to me, somehow. I guess it seems more like an act of love. Making the jam makes them happy. Seeing their friends enjoy it makes them happy. So, it makes me happy.
The flip side of this is that I won't be getting you anything. Sorry. I'm a scrooge!
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Date: 2005-12-02 08:03 pm (UTC)"The Danaeris who spoiled the Midwinter Retail Festival"
All the little retailers in T.O.-ville were snuggled in their stores, dreaming of MRF profits, when there came news from the interweb. The Danaeris wasn't coming to buy! Whatever could they do? If other consumer-drones heard of this, the mystical ink could turn from black to red!
(I woulda made it rhyme, but I'm supposed to be working)
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Date: 2005-12-02 08:16 pm (UTC)