Dear Friends,
Jul. 29th, 2005 12:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
danaerisA note from a hormonal and irritable ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
danaeris:
A number of you just jumped up and down on several of my hot buttons at the same time. So let's have a summary of what not to do:
(1) Don't give me advice on exercise or diet (and possibly on mental health) unless I ask for it.
(2) Don't tell me something that is common knowledge. Really, if it has to do with dieting or exercise, I already know it. As do most people you probably know who have ever worried about dieting even a little. While others may not be as touchy as me about this, you're still probably telling them nothing new. Things that fall into this category:
-Weight fluctuates from day to day, and there's no reason to freak out over a fluctuation
-Weight is not an ideal measure of health, and really what you want to monitor is body fat content, or inches around the waist, or somesuch
-there are others, but none spring to mind at the moment.
(3) Don't treat my feelings like they are rational when I've stated that it is irrational. I know all the reasons I shouldn't feel it. But I still feel it. And I still post about it. The proper way to respond to this is to ignore the post, or comment in a sympathetic fashion. Advice is anti-welcome at this point. In fact, if I say something that implies that my negative feelings are in conflict with my intellect, this is the WORST time to offer advice about why I shouldn't feel bad, because the mention of conflict with intellect should tell you that I already know whatever you're going to tell me.
I'm sure there should be more ranting in here. Maybe I should add something about terrorism for good measure? Or possibly the donut conspiracy.
This rant was brought to you by the birth control pill Alesse, Paxil withdrawal, low-blood sugar, anddanaeris' lack of self control.
danaeris:A number of you just jumped up and down on several of my hot buttons at the same time. So let's have a summary of what not to do:
(1) Don't give me advice on exercise or diet (and possibly on mental health) unless I ask for it.
(2) Don't tell me something that is common knowledge. Really, if it has to do with dieting or exercise, I already know it. As do most people you probably know who have ever worried about dieting even a little. While others may not be as touchy as me about this, you're still probably telling them nothing new. Things that fall into this category:
-Weight fluctuates from day to day, and there's no reason to freak out over a fluctuation
-Weight is not an ideal measure of health, and really what you want to monitor is body fat content, or inches around the waist, or somesuch
-there are others, but none spring to mind at the moment.
(3) Don't treat my feelings like they are rational when I've stated that it is irrational. I know all the reasons I shouldn't feel it. But I still feel it. And I still post about it. The proper way to respond to this is to ignore the post, or comment in a sympathetic fashion. Advice is anti-welcome at this point. In fact, if I say something that implies that my negative feelings are in conflict with my intellect, this is the WORST time to offer advice about why I shouldn't feel bad, because the mention of conflict with intellect should tell you that I already know whatever you're going to tell me.
I'm sure there should be more ranting in here. Maybe I should add something about terrorism for good measure? Or possibly the donut conspiracy.
This rant was brought to you by the birth control pill Alesse, Paxil withdrawal, low-blood sugar, and
danaeris' lack of self control.
