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[danaeris]

Poly?
If you have ever been actively poly over a 12 month period, you should go take my poll in polyamory

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Pictures:
Folks who have been photographed by me anytime between now and November should let me know if they want copies of pictures I took of them. I just uploaded a bunch. You're all very cute. :)

Forthcoming: A post showcasing the fruits of my labor aka my newly rearranged bedroom.

Comments

[etherlad.livejournal.com]

LJ doesn't like your <lj-comm="polyamory"> tag. Should probably be <lj comm="polyamory"> or <lj user="polyamory">. (:

[etherlad.livejournal.com]

Never mind, I see you fixed it. I shut up now.

[beowabbit]

(I tried to post this in polyamory, but I’m not a member of that community.)

I got 125, but I don’t think that’s very meaningful. On the one hand, I checked “Gain of new family member” because my sister’s partner moved in with her and they’re about to get married; on the other hand, she’s been involved with him for years. On the third hand, I’ve had considerable psychodrama about the wedding. Also, I didn’t check “Breaking up with a partner”, but I had a close friendship that mattered a lot to me dissolve. (On the other hand, it had been having problems since before the last twelve months, so having everything clarified was a relief in lots of ways, and seems to have ended up making me healthier overall. On the third hand, this list seems to be about change rather than about hard stuff.)

By the way, is “Vacation” supposed to be “currently on” or any time in the last twelve months? I answered it the second way, since I’ve had a vacation in the past year, but it’s counterintuitive that that would be a stressor, while it makes perfect sense that being on vacation is a stressor.

I also had the sense as I filled out the quiz that there were some big sources of stress that it wasn’t catching, and also some major sources of support that it didn’t address. (The past year for me has had a lot of wonderful support in it, and the easing of some major my-life-is-not-quite-what-I-want-it-to-be kinds of stresses.)

[benndragon.livejournal.com]

I'm with you on the "missing stressors" bit. For example, learning to ride a motorcycle was pretty stressful. But riding a motorcycle is anti-stressful for me (although it would likely be stressful for others). So short term major increase in stress in exchange for long term relatively constant small decreases in stress. But the test also fails to account for things that might decrease stress, so it couldn't even begin to take that into account. . .

[benndragon.livejournal.com]

And then I think "anti-stress is slack!" and get a craving for Chez Geek. . .

[angel-thane.livejournal.com]

How does one define 'actively poly'?

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

that was my question too. actively looking for partners? actively dating them? something else?

[angel-thane.livejournal.com]

Exactly. If you only consider 'actively poly' as 'currently sleeping with two or more people' does that mean that a monogamous person going through a dry spell (and thus sleeping with nobody) isn't 'activley mono'?

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

I would just like to say that while YMMV, I think my results were atypical for the poly community. It was a particularly difficult 12 month period, above and beyond any previous year (or really, the past year and a half was particularly difficult compared to all the previous years I'd been poly).

[onesoul.livejournal.com]

Hi hi. I'm looking to become an altnernative sex therapist and can't find a darn thing about assessment tools for poly clients. I wanted to thankyou for providing at least SOMETHING to get me started. *smile* I would like to be any and all filters that talk about relationships, sex, alternative sexuality, or anything with therapy/counseling, if you feel okay with that. I'll be adding you as well. Thanks again! And I expect to use this questionnaire as early as this friday, so I really appreicate having something to work from.

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

Um. Woah. The questionnaire provided is NOT for therapeutic use, is not valid for therapeutic use, etc.

It's just something I threw together in a spare five minutes looking at the original scales. Neither my adaptation nor the original scale are likely to apply to poly folk, based on the methodology used to develop the stress scales.

Please don't use it for therapy on poly people. You'll only mislead them.

[onesoul.livejournal.com]

I'm not using it as THERAPY. *laugh* I'm just using it as a way to get questions started. I don't use assessment tools for anything other than a way to help people feel comfortable. I'm just doing a sexual history review... not using it to guide anyone's life. *smile*

I'm not out to mislead anyone I assure you :)

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[vsbooklady.livejournal.com]

sorry, those "extra" points were really a "total" points
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[yiab.livejournal.com]

since it's questionable whether or not i'd qualify as poly at all, i was a bit apprehensive about taking this test, but i took it anyway and got a 515. i had no idea some of these things could even count as stressful.