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danaeris-78% Join In
Even if the people having sex are both your SOs, sometimes your SOs are in the mood for a twosome. It wouldn't be appropriate to invite yourself along on one of their dates, and neither is it appropriate to join in on their sex without asking. The sex-positive community functions because it is based on the concept of consent. Never forget that!
-47% Make yourself comfortable, make some popcorn, and enjoy the show.
In some sex-allowed rooms, it might be understood that if you're getting it on, you're giving a show. With some participants, there might be an understanding (especially if you're involved with the people involved!). But barring these special circumstances, making a show of making them a show is just plain tacky.
+44% Sneak back out and hope they didn't notice you entering the room.
Were you hoping to take a nap and couldn't possibly sleep with that kind of activity going on? Or were you looking for one of the people involved, but it isn't important enough to want to bother interrupting them? Because if not, one might ask why you chose to stay in this room in the first place. Part of being in a hotel room that is sex-friendly is that it is a hotel room first and a place for sex second. Your right to get whatever it is you needed, or do whatever it is that you need to do, trumps their right to privacy, because in a shared hotel room, there is no such thing as privacy -- even a steamy shower scene can be interrupted by someone who really needs something they left in the bathroom. If you're uncomfortable entering the room while people are getting their groove on, then this is not the hotel room for you.
+44% Ask them if they want company, and if not, do whatever you came to do, and leave.
This ambiguous score can be attributed to the wide variety of situations this question covers. As a rule of thumb, if they are so engrossed in each other that they don't even acknowledge your entrance, leave well enough alone. On the other hand, if they initiate conversation with you, this is a much more appropriate action. Most especially, if they are still in the initial stages of forplay, and are former playmates of yours, this may be an appropriate action. Just keep in mind that if you've never played with any of them, asking them this question could put them on the spot and spoil their mood. Exercise this option with care, paying careful attention to verbal and non-verbal cues.
+56% Get whatever you came for, doing your best to be quiet and not look, and leave.
While an effort to not interrupt their activities or break their mood is admirable, keep in mind that a concerted effort to not look could be interpreted as an insult by the overly sensitive. Even more likely, it will be interpreted as a sign of your discomfort with the situation, and could engender guilt. If you don't want to stare, or don't want to look, try your best not to be obvious about it.
+64% Do whatever you came for, and enjoy the show while you do so.
Some people might be uncomfortable with being watched, even if it's in passing. Ms. Sextiquette would like to know why these people are staying in this room? All the same, be aware that some of your roommates may harbour notions of modesty; while this particular mode of behaviour is quite defensible, it still has the potential to offend.
+89% Get whatever you came for and leave; it's just people having sex, after all.
Ms. Sextiquette bows to your wisdom. Not a single person has yet objected to this particular mode of behavior, although some did not choose it as utterly defensible. Be assured that you can engage in this particular action with a clear conscience and the expectation that no reasonable person will find fault with your actions.
Even if the people having sex are both your SOs, sometimes your SOs are in the mood for a twosome. It wouldn't be appropriate to invite yourself along on one of their dates, and neither is it appropriate to join in on their sex without asking. The sex-positive community functions because it is based on the concept of consent. Never forget that!
-47% Make yourself comfortable, make some popcorn, and enjoy the show.
In some sex-allowed rooms, it might be understood that if you're getting it on, you're giving a show. With some participants, there might be an understanding (especially if you're involved with the people involved!). But barring these special circumstances, making a show of making them a show is just plain tacky.
+44% Sneak back out and hope they didn't notice you entering the room.
Were you hoping to take a nap and couldn't possibly sleep with that kind of activity going on? Or were you looking for one of the people involved, but it isn't important enough to want to bother interrupting them? Because if not, one might ask why you chose to stay in this room in the first place. Part of being in a hotel room that is sex-friendly is that it is a hotel room first and a place for sex second. Your right to get whatever it is you needed, or do whatever it is that you need to do, trumps their right to privacy, because in a shared hotel room, there is no such thing as privacy -- even a steamy shower scene can be interrupted by someone who really needs something they left in the bathroom. If you're uncomfortable entering the room while people are getting their groove on, then this is not the hotel room for you.
+44% Ask them if they want company, and if not, do whatever you came to do, and leave.
This ambiguous score can be attributed to the wide variety of situations this question covers. As a rule of thumb, if they are so engrossed in each other that they don't even acknowledge your entrance, leave well enough alone. On the other hand, if they initiate conversation with you, this is a much more appropriate action. Most especially, if they are still in the initial stages of forplay, and are former playmates of yours, this may be an appropriate action. Just keep in mind that if you've never played with any of them, asking them this question could put them on the spot and spoil their mood. Exercise this option with care, paying careful attention to verbal and non-verbal cues.
+56% Get whatever you came for, doing your best to be quiet and not look, and leave.
While an effort to not interrupt their activities or break their mood is admirable, keep in mind that a concerted effort to not look could be interpreted as an insult by the overly sensitive. Even more likely, it will be interpreted as a sign of your discomfort with the situation, and could engender guilt. If you don't want to stare, or don't want to look, try your best not to be obvious about it.
+64% Do whatever you came for, and enjoy the show while you do so.
Some people might be uncomfortable with being watched, even if it's in passing. Ms. Sextiquette would like to know why these people are staying in this room? All the same, be aware that some of your roommates may harbour notions of modesty; while this particular mode of behaviour is quite defensible, it still has the potential to offend.
+89% Get whatever you came for and leave; it's just people having sex, after all.
Ms. Sextiquette bows to your wisdom. Not a single person has yet objected to this particular mode of behavior, although some did not choose it as utterly defensible. Be assured that you can engage in this particular action with a clear conscience and the expectation that no reasonable person will find fault with your actions.
