frustrating thing

[danaeris]

OKCupid seems to feel that I am not very loving or emotional. Both of which are quite far from the truth for anyone who has seen me.

I think, honestly, that this is one more example of a bias that exists throughout society that has always frustrated me.

People seem to believe that if you can either be an emotional person or a logical person. Not both.

The truth is that I experience emotions very deeply. But my mind and the logic that governs it is in control, albeit informed by my emotions.

I hold logic in high esteem, but I would be an empty shell without my emotions. As irrational and frustrating as they can be, they are what makes life worth living, and they are what makes us human. That being said, making decisions solely based on your emotions is bound to lead you in some really fucked up directions you ultimately will regret.

I guess I'm just disciplined. I do what I decide is the right thing to do (be it right for ethical or for other reasons), regardless of how much I don't want to, how scary it is, how hard it is, etc.

*sigh* maybe I'm just a freak in that way, but if so, I'd maintain that it is a good way to be a freak!

OK, back to packing. Putting the crack down and backing away.

Comments

[uncledark.livejournal.com]

Nothing wrong in being a freak. Get your freakness on and be proud. :)

Embrace your freakiness!

[neuroptik.livejournal.com]

I know you already do, but...take such assessments with a grain of salt.

Most of these questions are by members (of a very, very low average age), and probably slapped into some vague categorization.

I know I absorb and analyze what a person writes and take that into consideration more than some 'score' given by a site.

[benndragon.livejournal.com]

There are several questions there I have not answered because the question was too broad or none of the answers fit. Unfortunately OKCupid only lets you skip a question once; if it comes up again you're forced to answer it. Which is pretty damn annoying and leads me to take the matches with a grain of salt. Especially since there's a bunch of stupid "brain teaser" questions in there. I can't fucking stand those - I'm not aiming to be someone's english/math/physic teacher.

I've noticed that with more important things I end up with a single answer for a match, with less important things multiple answers. I don't really worry about it. I'm pretty laid back about the whole thing (with the exception of questions relating to freedom, honesty, and poly stuff, then I get a bit more serious about the answer). I'm amused that it classifies me as "more arrogant" than most chiks my age, however.

[auros]

I suspect most of us who get selected into the "local" social network are more arrogant than most people our ages, but mainly because we have more reason to be arrogant. *g*

[auros]

This is something that was on my mind when I was discussing the "geek poet" stereotype a few posts back in my journal... There are actually a fair number of us who are passionate yet logical, but we're defined out of existence by social bias.