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[danaeris]

Just posted something in the polyamory community about life partners and growing old alone and codepency and stuff like that. If anyone has opinions feel free to go read and post a response! *hugs to all* off to work now I go!

Edit July 2006
http://community.livejournal.com/polyamory/862256.html

People in the thread who know me:
arcticelf is an ex boyfriend
joedecker is an ex (and hopefully future) lover
karenbynight is a dear friend who I highly respect
tadziu is an acquaintance

Comments

[tunape.livejournal.com]

There's a whole community of "quirky alones", with books, online community, etc.... Basically, lots of people asking the same question. Just google it.

The arguments for being together is definitely appealling, at least, financially. Of course, it's all the government's fault for setting (arbitrary) laws for marriage and tax breaks. Why not the same tax breaks for same sex? or more than 2 people marriages? For your arguments for being together, logically, you can benefit more with not just 1 other person, but perhaps 2 or 3, etc...

I had a thread earlier in my lj about the "marriage corporation". bleh.

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[auros]

I've commented in several places recently (though not in Q~'s journal, that I can recall), on the fact that I favor abolishing marriage as a government-licensed institution, and replacing it with a system of civil unions for any number of people.

I think there are reasons other than finance, though, for wanting to have company at home, esp as one gets past the blush of youth. Put simply, being alone is lonely. I suspect some of those quirkyalones (or whatever they happen to be calling themselves in the latest defiant fad) may catch onto that fact eventually.

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[plymouth.livejournal.com]

agreed. I think that wanting and enjoying the continued company of another can be accomplished in an entirely (or at least mostly) non-co-dependant fashion.

[coffeekitty.livejournal.com]

i can't say that i see LTRs as inherently involving a lot of sacrifice. sometimes mine reinforces choices i have already made that involve sacrificing one thing for another (good example: i am willing to sacrifice a lot of my chances for success in an academic career because i very much want to continue living in the Boston area. this is reinforced by knowing that my SO also wants to stay here.)

[freefloat.livejournal.com]

I haven't seen your posting on polyamory just yet (heading there next) but I'd like to add another benefit to cohabitation: for those of us with full-time jobs, sometimes we get company benefits (such as medical or dental) to offer to live-in long-term partners.