looking up all the same

[danaeris]

Last night Andrew and I had a chat. We discussed that whole 'settling down' thing. I basically told him that I'm not comfortable saying to ANYONE that they are my current 'candidate' for settling down with and having children. I just am not in a stage of my life where that's practical or right etc.

And besides, I'm not even sure that child-bearing wise, I'm mono. I'm definitely romantically/sexually poly. Maybe I'll decide to be poly regarding children as well. Not likely, but you never know.

Having that sorted out took a huge weight off my chest. phew. I was worried that he would get really upset, but he took it completely in stride. Yay!

I'm also closing down the Technology Review internship and getting along on a lot of schoolwork, which is really nice. I won't be a student for much longer...

I may be visiting Hootenany's tomorrow late afternoon to shop for my, um, special Super Mario outfit. Anyone wanna come along and look at the pretty skanky clothing?

Hands still hurt. I will make it through this though...

Andrew might be punting the Legends event this weekend. Which means I either have to scramble for a ride last minute or punt the event. I can't boff with my wrists like this anyway... Opinions on what I should do if he doesn't go and I need a ride? (although he's talking about driving people there and then coming right back)

Comments

[auror.livejournal.com]

i'm leaving at 2:30 / 2:45 and still have space in my car if you need it.

Settling Down

[benndragon.livejournal.com]

Gods, I can't imagine "settling down". What I really want is for all of my friends/lovers to live within walking distance of me, and an n+1 room place with my primary(ies) - one room for each of us and a "guest room" with an extremely large bed. Kids, I don't include in that picture. I'm extremely ambivalent about little ones, with "not now" being about as specific as I can get. You know, I never considered poly to be split up (romantic/sexual vs child-rearing) in the fashion you describe, mainly because I'm not split up like that - poly is a lifestyle, and kids are a part of one's life, least by my thinking.

Goal-oriented dating also seems like a fool's errand to me. I date someone because I love them and it doesn't cause more pain to all involved than being fuck-buddies with them would, not for some mythopoetical future together.