The promised poll

[danaeris]

As promised, here is that other poll, based off of being_angyl's poll. Results are viewable to my friends. Enjoy!

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[Poll #192268]

Comments

[aaangyl.livejournal.com]

I've gotten the vibe from a number of your posts over time that social/personal interaction might be difficult between us, because of the way I know I handle various situations and conflict and misunderstandings versus the way I percieve you do (again, realizing it's based only on your posts) - as in, I do get a sense that I might somehow easily accidentally tread on your toes and you might either let it go unspoken but get uncomfortable, or let it build up until a button got pushed really hard. That's in conflict with the ping of connection I felt when we met that one time - it basically yields the net effect of looking like I'd have to watch myself carefully when interacting with you, whereas when I ping that someone's interesting, I have a desire for increased comfort levels and the sense that I (and they) can and will just relax and be who they are and dialouge openly. I dunno if that makes a lot of sense, but that's why I haven't really put a lot of effort into trying to make much contact with you. That and I thought you didn't read my journal, since you didn't leave comments or ever seem to reference anything I'd been talking about. But I didn't drop you, which I did to most people that I thought didn't read me, so that says something. Anyway, blahblah. Just wanted to finish the thought I started in the poll.

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

Huh. That's really interesting. See, I'm a really blunt person. MOSTLY, I say what I think to people as soon as I've vocalized it in my mind enough to understand it and verbalize it to them.

I strongly believe in trying to phrase blunt statements as gently and with care as possible, but I still say them. I tend to err on the side of too much communication rather than social grace. unseelie tends to go with a "don't rock the boat" motto in a lot of cases and it has always frustrated me because it is a choice that is fairly alien to me even though intellectually, I recognize that sometimes it is really the best choice.

So yeah. I'm wondering how you got the impression that I'd be like that. Sure, if I'm not aware of a button and you press it, it'll be bad, but I think that happens with everyone. It would be interesting to talk to you about that impression and where it came from. This is one of the things I hate about online journals... it presents a face to the world and that face is rarely representative of who you really are. I HATE being misunderstood... its actually one of my "issues" that I could really use to get over.

As far as reading your journal... I sometimes read your journal, othertimes not. I've been doing so more and more lately, as may be obvious. FWIW, I have a default view that does NOT include everyone on my friends list. It DOES include you, however.