That Crush Meme

[danaeris]

-First, I'd like to state that I did not take the crush meme, so if you're wondering if I am figured in your statistics, I'm not.
-Second, I have no intention of buying the results. I agree with most of my friends that the whole situation is just... wrong. If someone who has a secret crush on me wants to TELL me, then that is their decision and theirs alone. Whoever is running that company has some serious gaps in hir ethics.

Having said that, my vanity could not resist querying their server to see how many crushes were floating around. According to them...

3 secret crushes
8 public crushes
8.5 ex-crushes

Is it a bad sign that 8.5 people no longer have crushes on me? I wonder if that's a "disillusioned" or a "just lost that level of interest" thing. Probably varies from case to case.

I'm kinda curious, so I'm following in being_angyl's footsteps and making my own poll. Results are only viewable to me. I don't bite, unless you ask nicely.

[Poll #191665]

And, because it occurred to me, I couldn't help but check unseelie's stats, and 4 people have secret crushes on him, 4 have public crushes, and 2 have ex-crushes.

Comments

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

I filled it out accurately, but since I have no secret crushes I don't really care if anyone buys my results. Both my public crushes are people I was involved with at the time (well, one only sortof, it's still someone I would admit to any of my friends that I lust after him and most of them already know.) and all my ex-crushes are people I used to be involved with.

It's slimy and I hope he doesn't make any money off of it. Everyone who I know who has said anything so far is either pissed off... or amused but still not willing to spend money on it. But then I guess given the general climate of reactions people would be unlikely to admit to willingness to pay for it.

The questioner is sexy and supergroovy!

[merovingian.livejournal.com]

I did, for a while when we first met, have a crush on you. This was before we met, based on your writing. I wouldn't say that it faded or I lost interest - it just developed into a friendship.

(I guess, for me, when someone seems really interesting to me, but I don't know much more about them, it manifests as a crush. When I learn more about them, my feelings get more well-defined.)

Re: The questioner is sexy and supergroovy!

[merovingian.livejournal.com]

Wait! i just saw the part about how he's now selling the crushes! That's super-annoying!

[deyo.livejournal.com]

I'm tempted to send this guy four bucks, get my results, then order PayPal to cancel payment on the grounds that he openly described these crushes as "Secret", and is now committing fraud by revealing them.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

*giggle* dude, that's excellent! (of course you'd have to come up with a good legal definition of "secret")

[aaangyl.livejournal.com]

Oooh, I like the way you included options for "hot but no crush" stats, that's a really good idea!

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

:) It occurs to me, though, that there are just too many variables. There should be something to indicate a "attractive based on force of personality" and "based on non-physical attributes" (like intelligence, profession, schooling, etc.)... I think you included something like that in your poll.

[benndragon.livejournal.com]

I think I listed you as an ex-crush, but that's because I can't do anything about it, being on the other end of the country and all - if we should end up in the same place, the expected would more than likely occur ;). Given your move was post-LJ, it's perfectly possible that others are in the same boat as me, and might account for a number of those ex-crushes.

Here's my gripe.

[jadasc.livejournal.com]

I filled out the questionairre, fully expecting to get feedback on which other people who filled out the questionairre had an interest in me, secret or otherwise. I disclose, they disclose, it's a little exhibitionist thrill, people are happy.

The fact that you (in the generic, here) who did *not* fill out the quiz, and did not make a similar amount of disclosure, but still get the same sort of benefit bothers me.

Re: Here's my gripe.

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

In all honesty, you're the only person I've run into who was under the impression that they would ever get any info back out of the meme other than the stats they would post in their own journal about their OWN crushes. Everyone else seems shocked that this company is selling the info, and seems to feel angry and betrayed. Maybe they all misunderstood and you didn't. It is possible, but unlikely. Although where you could have gotten that idea from if the meme didn't give it to you, I wouldn't know. *shrug*

Re: Here's my gripe.

[jadasc.livejournal.com]

But that's the thing -- the opening page advertises "Secret Crushes". Whose? Mine? I know all mine. When I finished dutifully selecting people from my friends list, and all I got was a mathematical tabulation of what I'd already entered, I was surprised and a little disappointed... because I expected to get what was put out for free today.

Now, the $4 thing bothers me, mainly for the reasons I cited above. There's probably some value, even if just amusement, in knowing whom I have a crush on... but in my eyes I only consented to offer that knowledge to people who made an equivalent disclosure. Knowing otherwise changes things.

[amberite.livejournal.com]

Amused because I'm seeing it creating less drama, and more community. Because none of the really cool people are paying, and most of them are analyzing it, doing what I'm doing and being_angyl is doing and you're doing.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

none of the really cool people are paying

someone I THOUGHT was cool paid... *sigh*

[ericsilverbear.livejournal.com]

I could say that I probably fall, now somewhere between thinking you are hot and sexy and kinda cute, but I don't have a crush on you... I choose to say Used to have a crush, because with us, I expressed myself, and you stated that the feeling was not mutual, then I moved on... Also, I know that when I did meet you, I didn't feel the super sparks flying and just knew that you are one cool, sweet, intelligent and sexy person...

I still think we are developing a friendship, and I definitely know I still enjoy talking with you...

So, I'm officially coming out and saying that I marked you as an EX-CRUSH on the meme...

[calling-to-deep.livejournal.com]

Heh. I didn't fill itout because my paranoid little mind said "I bet his server is easy to hack and wow would I be embarassed if anyone I know found out I had filled out that stupid meme."

That said, curious as I am about which four people have crushes or ex-crushes on me, it's really their callwhether they want to tell me or not.

Though yeah, if you were dumb enough to give an unknown and untrusted party personal information, all I can say is "serves you right"