Mandatory reading - no really

[danaeris]

Mandatory reading courtesy of joedecker and ultimately written by althaea.

I really mean that. Everyone should read this post. It is an incredible description of what an abusive relationship is like. Read it to recognize what has been fucked up in your past relationships. Read it to know the warning signs of an abusive relationship just in case you or a loved one get involved in one. Read it. Read it. Read it.

Comments

[kineticphoenix.livejournal.com]

I strongly second that motion. As I read it, it described so perfectly some of the situations I'd been through. The title of the post was even my husband's parting shot to me as I left him.

[auros]

The title of the post was even my husband's parting shot

I've heard it used. You just have to reply, under your breath, "From your mouth, to the gods' ears!"

*hugs*

[sonata960.livejournal.com]

Wow, thanks for the link.

Rrrrrr...

[lawbard.livejournal.com]

Thats a phenominally well written posting. I absolutely second it.

As my clinic continues, I'm sure I'll see more of both sides of this. I've already talked to the victim-witness advocates...and they tell me horror stories of how some domestic abuse victims are angry with them for keeping their man away from them in jail, and how they just want him back so they can work through this. Trouble is...if the victim doesn't want to press charges it is very hard to prove a domestic violence case.

But sometimes...sometimes people surprise you. One woman I saw come in and say that 'things like this' had happened before but she'd ignored it, but she'd hit the last straw...he was out, she wanted him in jail, and he could go to the police station to pick up his stuff.

Re: Rrrrrr...

[auros]

My older brother was on a jury once.

The case was an assualt/rape charge against a guy who'd basically abused his gf. He got convicted on the assault, but was let off on the rape because the gf said, OK, yeah, he'd hit her (the medical evidence of that was obvious), but the sex was later and was consensual. (It was unclear whether that part was true, but there wasn't any other evidence.)

The case immediately following was against the gf's brother, for beating the crap out of the bf.

While his gf was walking him out to the paddywagon to be driven back to jail, and the brother was being brought in for his trial, my brother overheard the judge remark to the prosecutor, "I wish we could convict all of them of criminal stupidity."

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

I am very happy to say that I didn't relate to pretty much any of that. Yay. But I think it's a good thing to have read in case I ever have friends in that kind of situation. Perhaps I can be able to help them better. Thankyou.

arg!

[ambermoone.livejournal.com]

i have a friend who just recently got involved in a rehab program for victims of rape and domestic violence... all i can say is you have got to have nerves of steel to deal with that on a regular basis..i have enough trouble reading passaged like that..but they are a good slap in the face about the reality of abuse.
-j