Lavalife

Has anyone who uses Lavalife noticed if it is okay to say that you are in an open relationship, or polyamorous, in your profile for the dating or relationships section of the site?

Either by stating it yourself, or having seen other people stating these things?

x-posted around

General update

Relationships

Things are good with all three of my sweeties. Spryte is having surgery next Tuesday, which is scary, and she's in a lot of pain, doped up on pain killers to get her through the day until her surgery. This sparked another bipolar episode the other night. I love her and I'm quite worried. She seemed much better yesterday and today, however, emotionally. Hopefully, that will continue, and the dumb psychiatrist offices will bloody well call her back soon.

( Stuff about being a rape survivor affecting my relationships )

Physical Health

I've been getting sporadic but large amounts of low key exercise, and that's been feeling good. However, some of my other issues have been acting up -- my groin injury in particular, but also to some extent, my knees.

Attempts at weight loss have not been successful. My improved eating patterns and exercise levels have made me feel better and have higher energy levels, but I don't seem to be losing any weight. In fact, Sunday morning I weighed in at 200 lbs. for the first time. I am not impressed. I feel fat and ugly, and have noticed that I'm starting to make clothing choices that hide my body. I could go into hyper management mode where I log, weigh, and measure everything I eat. At this point, it's beginning to look at the only solution. I could also try to exercise more, I suppose.

I've got weird pain in my right jaw/ear that's been bothering me all day. I hope it goes away; not sure what's causing it.

Mental Health

Today is my first Effexor free day! Yay! This is very exciting. I was down to 7 granules, and when I realized that I had left my pills at Elysium and would have to return home (downtown) rather than crash where I was (Arcadia, in Mississauga), I decided to take a leap and try to go without. And I feel fine!

My mood has been variable but mostly positive. I feel fairly certain that the Celexa doesn't *quite* do it for me. I'm hoping that with more therapy, I'll be able to cope. If not, I hope to either try out Wellbutrin, or to supplement with 5HTP.

I also am hoping that when I start at Ryerson, I'll be able to use one therapist for relationship stuff and another for career and anxiety stuff. I have a lot of rape-related issues I've barely dealt with, and as things stand, being ready to go to school in September is a higher priority -- yet I really want to deal with my intimacy issues.

Finally, I just started the Mindulness Based Stress Reduction course at Sherbourne. It's good, but flakey. More on this when I have more to say. :)

Work type stuff

I'm working on three articles for Xtra, and I pitched another to Macleans. I need to follow up on the latter, polish off the first two for Xtra, and start and finish the third.

I also am doing volunteer work for CSWA in order to get into the conference in June free.

I also have been stepping up the amount of volunteer work I do for the poly community again.

I do feel like I'm juggling a lot, but at the same time, I feel good about how well I'm coping. I do feel that the workload, especially the professional stuff, is impacting my stress level. I do feel like I need a little more resting time, so after these articles and the Macleans I may rest some more. We'll see.

Also, I got my class schedule! I will have classes Monday afternoon, all day Tuesday, and Wednesday afternoon. Sweet. My classes are all mandatory, though: Covering the City: Reporting and Writing, Research Methods for Journalists, and Urban Politics and Society for Journalists. I'm not thrilled about this, because only the Research Methods really interests me. In that regard, the first term will by far be the most difficult to get through, because I have so little interest in the classes I'll be taking. But, I just have to make it through that term, and then I think in the remaining three terms, there are only two classes I'm iffy about, and even they are preferable to this focus on city/urban crap.

( Some of my recent adventures )

Today the social was super awesome. We had 17 people, and ended up talking about all sorts of poly stuff. I had a really good time. :)

Tomorrow I have all sorts of worky things to do, but in my usual scattered fashion, we'll see how much of it I actually get done. Wednesday is a Spryte date and Thursday is a Yaksman date and Friday is my MBSR, and then Sat/Sun/Mon I'll be camping, and then Tuesday I'm keeping the Spryte company for her surgery. I may stay over Wednesday and/or Thursday as well to care for her. Then that weekend is Anime North, which I'll be attending for Xtra as well as my own pleasure, and Sunday is more gaming. Babbly.