Valentine Confessional

[danaeris]

It's still Valentine's on the West Coast, so this post is not too late. ;)

So! Tell me a secret! Tell me a not-secret! The only rule is that it has to be sexual or romantic or somehow love-related. Doesn't have to be about me, or about you, although it can be. Confess a fantasy or crush or regret, or wax rhapsodic about a partner of yours.

You know you wanna.

Comments

[karenbynight.livejournal.com]

I fell pretty madly in love last summer. He's fabulous, I grin all of the time just thinking about him, and my existing partners have handled 6 months straight of my being in deep NRE with affection and aplomb. I'm very lucky.

[lastmx.livejournal.com]

I kissed a microbiologist tonight.

[acegreco.livejournal.com]

I feel like I'm in church. Confessional?

*chuckles*

Somehow I don't relate Valentine's Day and secrets / non-secrets / romantic- / sexual- / or love-related commentary.

But that's just me. :)

ok! :)

[(Anonymous)]

I was stupid and started dating someone without being clear that I wanted to be poly. Since at the time, it didn't really matter to me... And they were rather inexperienced in dating, so I figured it safer to wait.

Fast forward a year: I fall hard for someone they consider to be a good friend, whom we both know merely from online chat. They both work on the same project. I tell who I'm dating that I've fallen for this person, and they get jealous. I decide there is potential for big drama, and shut up.

Fast forward another year or so: The person I fell for doesn't know what is up. I find out they've had some health issues. I've been getting more involved in this project. This person does something unintentionally which I find highly attractive, and I am reminded of everything. I worry about their general well-being, but have tried very hard to not ask questions about their dating life, as I'm always stonewalled. Meanwhile, we've clocked up some serious chat time... And I find out they think they know me better than who I'm dating... (They are likely right.)

Also meanwhile, I haven't mentioned any of this recent development to who I'm dating. They've hinted they'd dump me if I was going to be obsessed about this other person. Now, having not done anything, at this point, I practically am obsessed.

It's a good guess that this other person is also inexperienced. Neither are really good choices for marriage or something. Honestly, I shouldn't be touching either one of them. But, rationality is one thing I've sort of lost at this point. What do I do?

It doesn't help that for various reasons we haven't spent as much time together lately...