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[danaeris]

There has been some debate among some of my friends recently about gender roles and modern behaviour. So I thought I'd ask my readers what you actually do. Please only fill out the questions for ONE gender identity.

[Poll #818494]

Comments

[con-girl.livejournal.com]

For some of this you'd need check boxes, not radio boxes and the age of the respondent might have a particularly strong influence on the female-identified.

[merovingian.livejournal.com]

Gosh, for me it's usually that I slightly ask, then they slightly ask, then back and forth.

But it's also different for me with boys and girls. I'm a lot more forward with boys.

[neeuqdrazil.livejournal.com]

For me as well - it's very different with men than with women.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

Same here on the back-and-forth so for the most part in my answers I'm judging based on who I think made the first volley... my current relationship is the first one I have EVER had where a boy directly and explicitly asked me out on an official date. (I have, in the past, had at least one r-ship where I directly and explicitly asked a boy out on a date too).

[qedrakmar.livejournal.com]

Less that half the time, I ask them out... the rest, there is no asking. It just happens. Suddenly, both parties just happen to be at the same events and things just work out. I've only ever had to ask someone out maybe twice. It doesn't even require planning or scheduling... it just happens. :)

[tshuma]

I don't think I've ever had the classic first date, so this whole idea of how it happens is hard to pin down. I guess I've asked people out and been turned down or turned down someone who asked me out, but none of my actual relationships began that way.

[jackspryte.livejournal.com]

I find there is a slight gender devide in terms of sexual aggressiveness and approaching others for sex, dating etc. With men it's usually 50-50 me or him asking to go out together or fuck etc. With women it's usually me asking them 70-30. So I think of this as "I'm more forthcoming, aggressive, spontaneous whatever than most women and about equal with most men".

It sort of puts more credance in my "I have more of a male than female attitude towards sex" theory. But I think many more aggressive bio women are around today than even ten years ago when my aggressiveness and approach was rare and refreshing and new for many men. It also helps prove this is all learned and far less a biological factor than previously thought IMO.

[atdt1991.livejournal.com]

Hi, I appeared out of nowhere - a friend of mine linked to your poll.

I'm highly flirtatious in general, but moreso with people I'm attracted to. That said, I don't pursue anyone who hasn't made it clear to me one way or another that they're interested. Reciprocal flirting, or I don't ever make a move.

It sounds kind of sad, in a way, but it has worked out quite well, especially because I prefer independent-minded women who are capable of making their opinions known. It seems to lead to a more equal-minded relationship, for me. I am often dating someone, and have many flirtatious, close friends to cuddle up with when I don't, so it seems to work for me.

I should mention, though, that I was raised entirely by women. That's much like being raised by wolves, I hear.

And speaking of flirting... the icon? So cute. *pink*