Living alone: Tell me about your experiences!

[danaeris]

I have three questions of all of you regarding living alone, and/or living in a bachelors.

(1) Especially for women... do you feel that, in comparison to living alone in an apartment building, living alone in a basement apartment or other apartment in a house is unsafe?

(2) For those who have lived in both a bachelors and a one bedroom... how much did the bachelors suck in comparison to the one bedroom?

(3) For the extroverts out there who might normally prefer shared living, how much did living alone suck for you?

Comments

[thespian.livejournal.com]

1) nope. Never felt unsafe or safe by the nature of the apartment, but by the nature of the building and neighbourhood.

2) Mightily.

3) It doesn't, really. I love living in shared housing, when the roommates are a good fit; it delights me. But you have to have that right mix, and that's such a pain to find. I am at home in both situations; here I know, at least, everything is my own fault (unlike my last shared housing, where everything was my own fault, regardless of what caused it).

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

1) Felt about as safe living alone in half of a duplex as I did in a large apartment building. Neighborhoods were similar.

2) Smallest I ever had was a 1-bed so I dunno.

3) I am so so so not an extrovert so I can't really answer. Living alone was fine for me :)

[jackspryte.livejournal.com]

3)Living alone is hell!!! I need social contact or I go mad...literally. One of the best indicators that I am depressed is my lack of interest in seeing/being with others.

2)As for Bachelors they are OK I lived in one for about 15 months. I will always prefer one bedrooms, everything just seems bigger all around.

1)No I don't feel unsafe in a basement or house at all or ina n apartment. The worst I find id the people in the area or your neighbours...if you don't feel safe around them you will never feel safe I find.

[blueskyjones.livejournal.com]

1) From guy point of view (and having lived in basement bachelors or bachelors in houses of people for three of my last four living places). Unsafe? No. Unhealthy? Yes. It's my opinion that people need light and clean air and lots of it. Anyone can live in a box underground or one above ground facing a brick wall.. But having a view/good sun exposure and a good cross wind helps AlOT! :)

2) For living, no difference, for socializing HUGE! Bachelors suck for hanging out.

3)While living with friends, activity is part of the house, (though you can easily deny its influence). But with living alone you really have to make social things happen and keep making them happen (especially if you ever find yourself falling into a blue funk)

Good luck,

Ej. :)

[freefloat.livejournal.com]

1) Why? If you're thinking because of breakins, I would put the risk at about the same for both, mainly due to whatever area you're living in. (apartment neighbors can be as risky as living in a basement in a dodgy neighborhood)

2) I could never live in abachelors. Something distinctly uncomfortable about having a bed in your 'living' room. The closest I've come is a military barrack room - some of them are downright nice - but it never truly escapes that "hotel room" feel. I second the comment about having friends over sucking.

3) I've shared with somewhat dismal results (mostly due to picking/ending up with the wrong roommates) and lived alone which to me is a blast. Yes there will be "lonely" days, but if you get to know your neighbors or have friends in the area, there's always someone you can talk to, even on the phone.

[eetmewithtoast.livejournal.com]

1) The only area that I would feel unsafe in is your typical quiet suburbia-type place. Because I know statistically, that's where most of the break-ins and hold-ups happen. I'd prefer not to live in an apartment building for noise reasons, but I see no difference in safety between the two.

2) Don't think I've ever lived in what you call a bachelors.

3) It's really hard to say whether I'm an introvert or an extrovert (though I'm sure you'd peg me as the former based on my behavior at Arisia), but I have always been the type to want to go out and socialize, and sleep somewhere quiet and private. So living alone is absolutely wonderful for me.