On moving

[danaeris]

I'm not good at half measures, which may be why I'm having so much trouble with this.

The smart thing for me to do is to consistently keep an eye out for potential housemates with flexible schedules, and ideal housing opportunities. To take my time, and not settle for anything that is less than what I want.

Instead, I oscillate between ignoring the pathetic fact that I'm approaching the age of 25 and have been living with my parents for more than 7 months now, and pushing to find housing at all costs.

The former is demoralizing; it seems to be synonymous in me with an attitude that my life is on hold, in postponement.

The latter is exhausting and disappointing, because trying to meet someone else's deadline, or some arbitrary deadline, will inevitably require compromise. And severe compromise when I'm saving so much money doing things the way I am just doesn't make sense.

Anyhow, here's to finding a balance.

Comments

[pyat.livejournal.com]

You're pushing 25 and living at home, but you were also out on your own at 18. :) Clearly, you must have simply been deferring parental residence!

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

Is there not a local resource for finding people who already have houses but are just looking to pull in a 4th of 5th roomate to replace a leaving one? That seems like the ideal situation, since then you could evaluate both the house and the roomates at the same time and not be bound by schedule pressure to make a decision since if you weren't sure you could just say "no" and believe that other oppoertunities would come up later on.

[velvetpage.livejournal.com]

With the exception of my exchange year, I lived at home until two weeks before my 24th birthday, at which point I got married.

Don't feel bad. Many people end up living with parents after they had thought themselves grown and flown. It's a part of life.

Of course, I know you want to move out, and that your parents are driving you crazy. But there's no shame in living with your folks for a while.

[icedrake.livejournal.com]

You're an accomplished professional freelancer, Dana. That is so much more than I can say. You're also younger than me, so SHUSH! Stop beating yourself down.