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[danaeris]

Plea: please please give me your input on this issue. If you have any thoughts on my arguments, etc. about where to live, please help me. I need that help.

Oh, and I'm adding another clause to the sanity check post, so you might want to check it again sometime after 10:10 PDT Thursday night.

I hope you have all at least skimmed the previous posts. I REALLY REALLY want you guys to respond with your comments and thoughts on that. But if you don't want to take the time to do that, please at least fill out this poll.

[Poll #49250]


Please don't hesitate to comment to this. I really need your input.

Comments

my thoughts...

[auror.livejournal.com]

i feel that in a few years, i will have to make a similar decision. I LOVE san francisco. it has always been my home. i was born in burlingame (a suburb) and every time when visiting felt very at home. it is a great place to be young and fresh out of college (my mom and dad had an apartment in the city for their first few years after Cornell and before me) and the suburbs are a great place to raise kids. i also have family there. the weather is always perfect, and if you want snow, go west to the mountains and ski. it has an ocean, it has history, it has culture like chinatown and its beautiful. yes, you reasonably need a car, but that is a barrier that you can overcome with time. i want to live in sanfrancisco, just for a year, maybe more, but for at least a year.

then again, i love boston. its too hot in the summer, but nice and cold in the winter. its a great city and all of my friends are here and so is my life for now. i feel that when i graduate i will have fewer ties to the city and will be free to live elsewhere.

if i were you, i'd either live in san francisco for a year, then decide to come back. OR live in boston for a few years then move out to san francisco with a new job. pick one. and stick with it. you will always question your decision to see if it is the right one, but with these two cities that you obviously love so much, you can't go wrong. things will work out in all aspects of your life either way, and if you're still unhappy, move somewhere else, like chicago, or seattle (oooh seattle!).

its not whether you make the RIGHT decision. its whether you make the decision at all. pick one place and stick with it. don't spend time worrying- that's no fun. make the best out of whatever you choose. go have fun and be who you are wherever you are. in the end, its all about you and who you are not where you are. i know you'll be happy and have fun and get fullfillment in either place. don't worry be happy.

i'm getting too mushy and sentimental now, so i'll be quiet. so yeah, pick one and stick with it and don't regret it and change your mind later if it wasn't good. the important thing is to not stress out and relax and be yourself.

Re: my thoughts...

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

Thank you for your thoughts, auror. They WERE useful/enlightening. And the notion of you living here, even temporarily, after you graduate, if I am living here, is heartwarming---something to be looking forward to.

*hugs and kisses*
p.s. I'd forgotten that you were from this area...

[rigel.livejournal.com]

Even with the answers I've given, I feel I haven't presented my opinion on the topic well.

In terms of where is best for you, there's no way for me to know that. Only you can know that, and I think you're well on your way to knowing that given all the thought you're putting into this. In terms of me personally, I know I'd enjoy you living in Boston, since that's where I am.

I don't know how much New Place Euphoria is affecting you, kind of like New Relationship Euphoria. It's hard to tell. The only indication of that I could cobble together would be the tone in which you recommended my moving to increase my happiness, and I don't think that's the best indication.

Regardless, I still think that you'll do what's best for you. *hug*

[jrpseudonym.livejournal.com]

I don't feel like I should be taking your poll, we talk often enough anyway that I'd rather give you my feedback in person and, well, we know my motives are suspect. Well, not so much suspect as bloody obvious...

But ask me in person or online any time. I realized I was pleading the fifth on all the questions, not because I didn't want to say things but because I couldn't categorize them.

[lyadann.livejournal.com]

"Rent" rocks. :)

[bluedaisy.livejournal.com]

I, also, thought I should comment. From what you've been saying this summer, it sounds like you really enjoy living in SF. Since we rarely talk amymore, I can't say for certain that you like it better than Boston, but it certainly feels that way. In addition, job prospects seem to be better out there for you.
Living somewhere because you're in love with someone can be totally reasonable. However, it's kind-of a sore point for me, since I nearly gave up my lifelong dreams for someone I thought I was in love with who turned out to be anything but "Mr. Right", and seriously messed myself up psychologically in the process. On the other hand, LD relationships are tough, and if you are a touch-person, they are even harder, so if you want something to happen there, that may weigh in on the SF side again

As for spiritual training, I would imagine that you could find what you're looking for in SF or in Boston. I think that being spiritually fulfilled is something important to consider in choosing a home. I know that if I was considering moving, finding a church I really felt comfortable in would be very high on my priority list.

Most of all, I want you to be happy with your choice. Like earthdragon said, living with your parents seems the least good of all your choices right now. Moving to a random place (Kansas, for example) also seems poor--you have momentum going in SF, and an established group of friends in Boston. In a random new place you'd have neither.

Oh, and remember that you won't lose your friends in Boston even if you're not living here... that's what LJs and email and all that are *for* =)
(Though I hope you'd at least come visit us)

reply sent privately.

[billporn.livejournal.com]

I leave it to Miriam to see if she wants to post it or not.

Late but thought-about....

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

I *want* you to stay in Boston, so that I can eventually manage to meet you in person. :)

However. Reading what you've said...I think that SF may be the better place for you. So that's my advice.

From your random Netizen friend,
A.

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

It could be New Place Euphoria, I admit. But theoretically, at least, a lot of the things I based the decision on are factual and my perception of them couldn't be changed by emotional factors, theoretically. What some people have said about every situation being temporary is important to remember, too. If it doesn't work out here, I can always leave.

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

I most certainly intend on visiting. Especially if I get a reasonably well paying job. Yay money, when it brings you closer to important thing like people!

A lot of what you say is very true/holds lots of value. And, for what it's worth, though we haven't spoken much of late, I've always valued the time I've spent with you. You have a fire in you. Don't let it fade.

Re: Late but thought-about....

[danaeris.livejournal.com]

thanks, hun. And... you never know; we might still meet in person. I'll be visiting, after all...